It doesn’t matter what you do as a mum, you know you’re always going to be in the wrong, don’t you?!
Whatever you do, there’s always going to be someone out there with an opinion on what you are doing. Which is why the ‘stay at home mums’ versus ‘working mums’ debate still rages on.
I’ve been on both the working and stay at home mums side. I have always worked full time, then when my eldest who is now 8 came along, I carried on working part time when my maternity leave finished.
This prompted comments such as ” He’ll forget who you are, you’re never there!”
Then when my second came along, I had to stop working as putting two children in nursery and before and after school clubs was too expensive – at just under £800 a month childcare, and then transport costs at a £100 a month, I’d have been working for literally nothing.
So I became a ‘stay at home mum.’ I’m lucky in that I was in a position to do so, as my husband earns enough to be able to pay all the bills and mortgage.
This now gets new comments.
“So when are you going back to work?” “Are you working yet?!”
Never mind that since leaving work I have had a small person and baby to care for. The past eight years have been all about babies and toddlers. My now 8 year old started school at the age of 4, which is the exact time that I had my youngest, who has now just turned 4. So there has always been the baby and toddler stage going on.
You just can’t win can you?! Whatever you do, there’s going to be someone to tell you the ‘other way’ is better. Take it from me, whichever one you’re doing it’ll be the wrong one.
So as long as it’s working for you and your family, that’s all that matters – stick your fingers in your ears and ignore the rest.